Character Building


The topic of modesty isn’t straightforward; it is not black and white; there are many things we’ll need to learn, change and most importantly, understand. I would like you to note that modesty is more than long skirts, baggy tops, and head-coverings it’s so much more. Modesty is like a two-sided coin; you cannot have one side without the other. Modesty is about your internal (the heart) and external (your appearance).

Modesty is beyond long skirts, baggy tops, and head-coverings…

M stands for Moderation.

“Everything should be done in moderation.” 

This saying is flawed, and I cannot count the number of times I’ve heard this exact statement growing up. The truth is, as women that desire to live a life that is pleasing before God, moderation cannot, and does not apply in every area of life. For example, we must not sin in moderation – ladies we need to flee from even form of temptation! 

2 Timothy 2:22-24 Contemporary English Version 

22 Run from temptations that capture young people. Always do the right thing. Be faithful, loving, and easy to get along with. Worship with people whose hearts are pure. 23 Stay away from stupid and senseless arguments. These only lead to trouble, 24 and God’s servants must not be troublemakers. They must be kind to everyone, and they must be good teachers and very patient.

Diligently guide your thoughts with the word of GOD because your beliefs will always affect your actions.

O stands for Orderliness, not an obsession. Don’t get obsessed with modest fashion; living a life that pleases GOD should be your only obsession. The Bible teaches us, ‘…all things should be done decently and in order’ (1 Corinthians 14:40). Get some order into your daily routine by using planners, calendars, alarm clocks and yes, even prayer.

D stands for Do not conform. Romans 12:2 admonishes us not to be conformed to this world: but to be transformed by the renewing of our mind, that we may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” In this world, another trend pops up almost every day; we must not conform – we must not behave in a way that is pleasing to unbelievers. Remember, we are called by God to love them and not act like them.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Romans 12:2 nlt

E stands for Example. Be an example for the world to see. Do you realise that GOD closely watches our behaviour because we are disciples of Jesus Christ? In fact, Christians and unbelievers also carefully watch how we speak, what we eat, how we dress, our responses to specific situations and also how much we reflect God’s lights.

That’s why being an example for the world to see is such an essential aspect of living a life of modesty. Modesty speaks the truth, speaks life and reflects God’s love.

S stands for Sensitivity to the Holy Spirit. This requires you to spend time reading the Bible, praying (in tounges), and pursuing a life of holiness. Stop doing the things that don’t please GOD. Stay far away from places that aren’t conducive for the holy spirit to ‘move.’ Be quick to repent and live a life that glorifies GOD.

T stands for Timeless. The truth is modesty isn’t old fashioned as many people think, because modesty isn’t just about our physical appearances. Modesty is deeply rooted in humility. The Bible describes humility as meekness, lowliness, and absence of self.

The Greek word translated “humility” in Colossians 3:12 and elsewhere literally means “lowliness of mind,” so we see that humility is a heart attitude, not merely an outward demeanour. That’s the reason why modesty can stand for years and remain relevant.

Y stands for Yield to Holy Spirit. This means total surrender and total readiness to hear from the Holy Spirit. Yielding isn’t easy in the beginning, but it is fulfilling, rewarding, and life-changing.

Till next time. Shalom.

Iysi x

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  1. Aiseosa Eweka-Okera says:

    Wowwwwwwwww. I am blessed.

    1. Iysi Soriah says:

      awwww amazing !!! :’)

  2. Olatanye says:

    I like the mnemonics you coined for Modesty. They indeed address both the physical and spiritual sides of modesty. May the Lord engarce us to imbibe all of these attributes in Jesus name.

    1. Iysi Soriah says:

      Wow ! Thanks so much. The Lord bless you.

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